Aug 20th, 2015
Category: Love and Dating
Let’s talk about the very real, very sad problem we face when in a relationship or falling out of one. The longer you spend with someone, the more intertwined you become. You become each others best friend, confidant, lover, counselor, advisor, safe zone and partner in crime. It’s no wonder that when you trip and fall out of feelings with that person you are scared to death. Not literally of course, but scared, nonetheless. You are holding on because you are scared of letting go.
You are scared of letting go because you don’t know if you are making the right decision, because you are such a huge part of each other’s lives, you don’t know who you are without them and you’re afraid you won’t make it without them.
These feelings and thoughts are frightening, but at the same time they are so very necessary to realize that you do need to move on. You need to know who you are. You need to figure out what makes you happy and what it is that you want. Don’t be afraid to take a leap of faith and try life without the person you thought would be your other half forever. You know the old phrase “things are falling apart so that better things can fall together and into place?” That is the truth. Without courage, without faith, without risk, you can’t grow as an individual. We all need growth to sustain us. We are a thriving people, who want to explore and learn and experience. We can’t stay comfortable, complacent or stagnant.
Don’t hold on to someone or something because you are afraid of letting go. You feel this way for a reason. You aren’t crazy. I will say though, that if you don’t take that chance to figure things out on your own, resentment will set in and there will be no place for joy in whatever relationship you are clinging on to.
Now, I won’t tell you that this will be easy and I can’t say how things will work out but I know that another year down the road you’re on won’t get you any closer to the destination you are going to. Holding on to someone simply because you are afraid of letting go is wasting both of your time. Think of this as a lesson learned and an experience for growth. Everything that happens isn’t by chance but by fate so time spent with the wrong one is only preparing you for the right one.
Wishing you love and happiness♥ xoxo Whitney♥